Preparing for your big day can be immensely stressful. Details, details, details!
Your to do list feels like it’s a mile long. There are tons of decisions to make . . . and each decision affects all the others. But on top of all that, there’s the nagging worry that every single detail will be captured in photos and videos.
With that kind of pressure, it’s easy to overlook some of the simpler things on your list. Here are three seemingly insignificant things to put at the top of your list.
Seriously, these suggestions can save you a ton of heartache afterward.
How do we know? Because these are some tips at CafeMom from real brides. These are a few things that other brides overlooked and then, in that proverbial 20-20 hindsight, totally regret. Don’t let this happen to you!
- No Drastic Changes at the Last Minute — Decide now that you will NOT, under any circumstances, change your style choices at the very last minute right before the wedding. Yes, I know that it might sound like a fantastic idea to ditch the train and cut your wedding gown into a miniskirt, but that’s probably the stress talking (or maybe the lack of sleep). You might need to share this idea with your bridesmaids . . . and your mom . . . and maybe your next door neighbor so that they will hold you to it. Trust yourself! You really are making good decisions all along the way.
- Break in Those Shoes — No matter how comfy your shoes feel in the store, no matter how much you want to protect them from getting scuffed and dirty, you still need to break them in before your big day. All you need to worry about on your wedding day is being in the moment and thoroughly enjoying the whole day. And you can’t do that if your new shoes are wearing blisters on your feet. You should look radiant and joyful in your photos, not cringing because your feet hurt. Dancing the night away should be a blissful celebration, not a painful chore. Believe me — you want to break in those new shoes! Just find a way to wear them in a clean, careful environment — maybe around the house instead of during your morning jog around the neighborhood.
- Take Pictures During the Dress Fittings and Hair/Makeup Trials — You already know it’s a necessity to have the dress altered and fitted. You may have even scheduled one or more hair and makeup trials to get a feel for the style you like best. Be sure to take full advantage of these “dry runs” by having a friend take pictures of you from several different angles, in different sorts of lighting, even moving about in different ways. Just because the dress fits well while you stand still at the fitting doesn’t mean it will be comfortable for walking or dancing or bending over to hug your flower girl. And even though your hair and makeup look great to you at the time, you might find that in pictures — either very close up or maybe from a distance — they are not what you want. Besides, with a pic you can show your stylist exactly what you liked and what you didn’t, which is invaluable feedback. So take a little extra time for pictures and/or video, and it can save you some regret later.
There are even more great tips at CafeMom. (For example, watch out for a sweaty dress!)
What have you learned from other brides and their wedding stories? What great tips can you share with the rest of us? (I have a tip about how to cut the wedding cake, but that’s for a different post.) We would love to hear about it!